I don’t really believe in destiny. I am a planner – a big time planner, who would love to foresee and plan every minute of my future (because I enjoy it), but I have still accepted that I can’t. That’s why I believe in coincidences. I wasn’t meant to go to Australia and spend a certain amount of my young years on the other side of the World. A coincidence brought me here. And a lack of planning.
When I was in my late teens I was getting so sick of living a life where the next many years could be predicted because I was tied down by the education system. All my childhood it was the same routine. Start a new school year in August, Christmas meant half way through and then the year finishes in June and you can finally enjoy a few months of freedom before it starts all over again. I needed change for sure. I think most people do, after spending a minimum of 12 years of studying, whether they can see it or not.
I still liked planning – but I stopped doing it because I realised I needed some time off from that life, where time passes by while you are waiting to finish something somebody else has planned for you to do.
So when I graduated at 20 years old – that feeling of freedom is almost indescribable. It was scary, amazing and confusing at the same time. Confusing because suddenly nobody was expecting me to come to school everyday and that meant I had to figure out on my own what I wanted to do. But finally I had the freedom to go out and find that out!
I have been living the “no plans” life for a few years now and I can honestly say that I have learned so much more about life itself than after spending 14 years in school. I still plan a lot because that is part of my personality, but I have accepted that the greater plan for my life will unfold itself by coincidences. By that I mean, that I have given up on trying to foresee where I will be in 2 years, 5 years, 10 years. It is a waste of time trying to plan the future, when life itself is so unpredictable. I spontanously decided to go to Australia for 8 months when I was sitting somehwere in Thailand back in 2014. That decision took me 1 day to make. Now 1,5 years later I am still here in Australia! I never would have foreseen that a few years ago and that is part of what makes life so amazing.
They taught us from when we were little kids that we needed to have our lives sorted out for when we grow up. Knowing what we wanted to do as a career and what degree to take. But I have spent the last few years learning to accept that my life is not planned, secured or sorted out the least. And I don’t want it to be 🙂